Every single day there are a lot of articles about anxiety, suicide, depression, problems we have with social relationships and how we deal with different things. Am I wrong for saying it`s your fault if you`ve got these problems? I know some few who have or are suffering for depression and anxiety. Some time ago this blogger wrote about anxiety and I thought “But she never bothered mention it`s all up to us?” It is. It really is.
We`re humans. We`ve got brains. Why? So we can think for ourselves, be able to seperate wrong and right from each other and make our own decisions. Anxiety is definated as “a state of uneasiness, tension and apprehension, as about future uncertainties.” Some people have social anxiety and find it hard to be comfortable around people and talk to them without fearing judgements. Is this anyone else`s fault? Nope. We can change so much through our mindsets. If you think about other people`s point of views and let it affect you, than it`s nobody else`s fault because YOU let it affect YOU. So when people ask you “Why are you depressed?”, I have no idea what they say, but I bet it`s not something like “Oh, it`s my own fault”. I probably wouldn`t say that either, and I do understand other factors do affect us, but in the very end, we can`t let EVERYTHING effect us forever. . Let`s say you`re depressed, okay? It starts in your head and nobody else can get into your mind and change it apart from YOU. I don`t totally understand all these articles saying “Things not to say to someone who`s temporary ill/has depression or anxiety”. You can`t say whatever to anyone, because everything has a limit. But, even if people do tell you to for example not be negative, get out and do something that will make you feel better. . what`s the big deal? It`s not anything bad and if you want to stay negative, then fine, stay that way. I know it`s hard to be positive all the time, but it starts with YOU. Only YOU. Don`t “blame” other people for your problems when it`s up to you to make a decision. Do you want yourself to go down in flames or stand up and be strong?We`re only humans. Sometimes we hurt, sometimes we smile, sometimes we`re over-excited and sometimes we`re lost. But it`s up to you what you want to do next. Don`t let some events define you, let them change you for the better. Difficulties come and go, but life doesn`t. I`m writing this because I know so many people who`re affected by things that don`t mean much anymore when you`re about to die. Proove people dead wrong and show everyone that YOU are the boss of your own life. Never hand over the keys to somebody else. Don`t let other people take over your life. You are the architect of your own destruction and happiness.