ALL THESE EXPECTATIONS

OKAY, so I`ve been thinking about this for a while and I think it`s about time I write this.

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I`m a buddy this week. For those who don`t know what a buddy is, it`s an experienced students, who help new students. I`m a buddy for some of the international students. We have a schedule pretty much every day this week and I LOVE meeting and getting to know new people. It`s even more fun when they`re from different countries and have been living their lives there.

At evenings there are parties and I`m not saying that`s necessarily a bad thing. I`m not a party-person at all – I prefer a “cleaner” party, if that makes any sense? Alcohol-free parties. Therefore I feel like many people expect you to have a drink or two, whenever there`s a party. I don`t know about other countries, but here in Norway it`s so normal to grab a beer or two from the shops and bring them with you to the party and even to the park, if that`s where it`s all happening. Of course I`m going to let other people drink (even though I`m not any fond of alcohol), but why these expectations? I don`t feel pressurized, it`s just these expectations that are annoying. I`ve also encountered that some think of people who prefer to socialize without alcohol, as silly and weird. Or if you say no to a party, you`re a “party-bumper”. You`re not a fun person to hang out with. WHY`S THAT? Why these social norms and rules? I might be wrong and to be honest, I hope I am, but I experienced the same last year. I just wish these norms and expectations didn`t exist, and that it was completely okay to not be a party-person and to not drink alcohol. So many believe that we have to expect questions about why we choose to stay away from alcohol – why isn`t it the opposite?

Thank God there`s not going to be a party tonight – as far as I know, at least. We`re actually going on a Norwegian hike today, which I`m excited about. Norwegian nature is so beautiful and does me so good. I know today`s going to be a better day.

“HITLER WAS RIGHT”

Writing this post is very hard for me, as this is something I`m very “passionate” about. I need to write this. I care very much about people and I know what it`s like to be called things on the internet. Nevertheless I`ve barely been through any of that, compared to the Norwegian blogger Sophie Elise and many other people. At Friday she released a new song called “All your friends” and on Sunday the music video was released. (You can watch it HERE.) You can dislike her music, the language and you can dislike the music video. After all everyone has their own sense of music, but what happened afterwards was way too tragic. People commented a lot of rasistic and dehumanizing comments, and if you believe it`s “no big deal”, then read these comments. These are only some of many hundreds. (Youtube has deactivated the comment section. It got that bad).

“race mixers will be the first in line in the day of the rope”
“f*** your degenerate race mixing propaganda”
“why would you touch a monkey”
“Why are Scandi women so intent on throwing away and destroying their genes? No more blonde hair, no more blue eyes. Just brown skinned, brown haired, brown eyed mixed African children, is this what these women want?”
“You’re a filthy slut, and your jew producer trying to support race mixing, it’s clearly racist, many such cases!”
“Norwegian women are next into the gas chamber. Hitler was right. Himmler was right. Everyone was right. We need to end Western civilisation and start again.”
“Don’t touch the untermensch!”
“you did not like to touch this nigger but you got paid for it so YOU ARE A WHORE and it’s your fucking right to be one but it is also my right to not even piss on you when you’re literally burning …. so girls out there if you only once touch a nigger make sure nobody knows because many good white man think like me actually all good white man! Once you go black you never go back BECAUSE WE DON’T WANT YOU anymore monkey f*****”
“Traitors will hange first on the day of the rope!”

 

Posting them here is hard enough, and I wonder what the people who wrote this and so much more, were thinking. What on earth makes people write something like this? And all this because Sophie Elise is with a guy with darker skin in a music video which is supposed to be about love. It`s crazy – this world is crazy and people are crazy. It`s sad how people even allow themselves to write such disgusting things. It`s sad because history`s repeating itself – we`ve seen where dehumanizing other human beings can lead us, and yet it feels like many of us haven`t learned anything. It`s such a shame and this isn`t what things should be like.

I mean, in the very end we`re all human beings. We feel the same things, we go through many of the same things and it`s very sad that our skin colours get in the way of love. All I can say for now is: Throw some love everywhere you go. We all need love. ♥♥

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CELEBRATE DIVERSITY

Ever since Salvador Sobral and Portugal won the Eurovision Song Contest 2017, so many have been hating on not only his song or his performance, but on him as a person. Let me make something clear: It`s completely okay not to love the winner song, it`s okay to be disappointed, but shaming the winner and hating him simply because he`s taken the trophy with him home, is unacceptable and something we need to adress and talk about. Some were also criticising Ukraine for not showing “diversity”, as the theme for this year`s contest was “celebrate diversity”.a68dfcc65df30f1b9e9e53f7e66a6f4f1

I thought Eurovision was supposed to bring countries, languages and people together – that`s why I love the contest and have been watching it for almost a decade. But this time I must say I`m disappointed. Instead of enjoying the contest and accepting that the winner is Portugal, people want to spread hate and rumors. Yesterday my heart stopped beating for a second when I scrolled through the news and saw that the guy who represented Sweden this year, Robin, had written a post on Instagram about how he disliked Salvador`s speech. “Another one. Are you freaking kidding me?” was my reaction. It ruined my mood so much (hehe, that`s how it goes when you love Eurovision) and I felt so frustrated. Is it hard for people to look around themselves and understand where Salvador`s coming from? Romania`s Alex Florea claims Salvador has “head problems”. Thank God Wiwiblogs clears the misunderstandings. I`m one of those that were (and still kind of are) disappointed about the winner. Not because the singer is a “weirdo” (like some people have stated) or because the song is awful, but it just wasn`t one of my favourites. I was SO nervous about Bulgaria and wanted them to win. In the very end there were two countries left to get the televotes – those two were Portugal and Bulgaria. God, I can`t even explain how nerve-wrecking it was! As most already know, Portugal won and received more televotes and alltogether more points than Bulgaria. I couldn`t understand it there and then. Why Portugal? And why did so many vote for Salvador Sobral? I couldn`t understand what he was singing (because I can`t speak or understand Portugese) and I couldn`t wrap my head around the fact that there had been songs with sort of the same “style” before but they hadn`t won. So why Portugal?

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I started clapping when Salvador was standing on the stage, saying “I want to say that we live in a world of disposable music – fast food music without any content. And I think this could be a victory for music with people that make music that actually means something. Music is not fireworks, music is feeling – so let’s try to change this and bring music back, which is really what matters.” He`s so right, but I didn`t see the hate coming towards him at that time. You know, I understand that everyone won`t agree about everything and I get that many people aren`t quite happy with the way he said it, but I really wish people were more understanding and way more positive. I wish people tried to focus more on the nice things about other people, instead of always looking for even the tiniest flaws and mistakes. Salvador`s one of the most chill and humble Eurovision winners I have ever seen. He`s in NO WAY arrogant. Look up interviews he`s done – he`s in no way looking for fame. He simply wants to be an artist – he wants to create music with feelings. An arrogant person would take ALL the credits and not wait for his sister to come and share the stage with him. I thought that was obvious.

I really recommend those who`re hating on Salvador, to watch this press conference. He`s one of the many artists that are “shattered” by “everyday-pop-singers” that occupy the top lists. He tells how nobody really cared about the album he released last year – why`s that? Why`s that artists like him aren`t played that much on the radio? The reality is that they aren`t – check out the songs that are doing well in your country. I completely agree with Salvador and I believe so many have misunderstood his message – there are so many artists out there, that create music without any feelings in it. That DOESN`T mean he hates every artist in the world and believes he himself is the only one whom understands music. He was criticising the music industry and how there`s so much music out there without any content. Why isn`t that alright for a singer to say? Not every writer knows how to write well. Writing is art, just like music. Not every artist creates music with feelings and I think it`s completely okay to adress that. Those who are hating on him and saying “I`m just stating my opinion, so..”. Well, guess what? Salvador stated his opinions too that day on the stage, but I guess that`s not okay, because according to some people he`s just “a cunt” who`s dying and nobody will remember him anyways.

This comes from someone who listens to pop, country, ballades and bollywood songs – I like quite a lot. I won`t say we don`t need all kind of music and in the press conference Salvador stated that too. We need ALL KIND OF MUSIC – not only “fast food music.” We need all kind of music with feelings.If you take a look at the past winners, you`ll find many of the same things. The winner song has a “faster” rythm/beat, dancers, something happening in the background, lightening or a stageshow. You`ve got Emmelie De Forest from Denmark who won in 2013 and you have Dima Bilan from Russia who won in 2008. And for once, something else won this year. There was diversity and something different went home with the victory this year. It was only about Salvador Sobral and the song. His sister says she believes Portugal won because of the simplicity and the uniqueness in the song. The Eurovision Song Contest`s official site writes “Salvador Sobral is a singer who manages to put across a unique musical sensibility and magnetism on stage.” What Sobral did, was something unique. Again, that doesn`t mean he hated everyone else`s songs, but he`s tired of 1. how there`s not much diversity in Eurovision Song Contest and 2. how we live in a world of disposable music. Who usually occupy the top lists? Radi stations?And who usually wins Eurovision Song Contest? People wanted diversity – this is musical diversity. Music is what Eurovision should be about – not fireworks and what kind of clothes people are wearing. I love how entertaining the contest is, but in the very end I love the songs that make me feel something. That reach my heart and not only my mind.

People who create art, use experiences, things they`ve heard and seen to create whatever they want the world to see. Art should make you feel something – it should get to the deepest corners of your heart. That`s what I believe Salvador tried to do, and even though Portugal wasn`t my favourite and I was and still am a little disappointed, I`m proud of him. Why? He dared to be himself, despite everything. He wasn`t afraid to be different from the other participants – he did his own thing. Can I also just say how I LOVE that he`s not afraid to speak his mind?

Like I`ve already said – it`s okay to not like his song or his performance, but saying mean things about him as a person and what he is and isn`t, is unacceptable and shouldn`t be tolerated by anyone. I`ll write a post about the hate he`s been receiving later, but for now I just want to say it`s sad how so many have made themselves say the craziest things. I don`t understand how the very same people want others to be kind, but can`t be kind themselves. I`m one of those who loved the Bulgarian song more, but I`ve learned better. I`ve learned that trying to be more positive about something is the way, therefore I`ve seen several interviews done by him, I`ve read about him and I`ve looked up the English lyrics of the song. To the haters: Watch this great video by Alexander Rybak, who sings an English version of the Portuguese song to tribute the winner and hopefully you`ll listen to Salvador`s song with a new and open mind. (Alexander won the Eurovision Song Contest in 2011, by the way.)

In the very end I`d like to congratulate Salvador – I`m proud of you and proud of the fact that you have been doing your thing so far and will continue to do so in the future. You`re sincere with yourself and your fans and you`re clearly not afraid to speak your mind.

See you next year in Portugal! 🇵🇹

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8 MAY 1945

Victory was announced in May 1945 – Norway got independent after five years of war and occupation, at this very day, 72 years ago. Imagining the happiness and relief so many people must have felt at this day so many years ago, is surreal and hard. Why? I`m so lucky. My body has never been surrounded by war or hunger. It`s crazy to think of that I would most likely have been sent to one of the consentration camps, because I don`t look “Aryan” in any way. That`s so insane to think of and every day I`m thankful for my life here in Norway and the opportuinities my life here has given me, but at days like these, I`m even more thankful.

We tend to take our independence and freedom for granted, and we forget the long nights soldiers and other brave people had to go through, in order to rescue our country and win the war. We tend to forget the people who brought us here and fought for the freedom many of us take for granted. So today? Today I going to celebrate life a little more, and thank God for giving me a life here in Norway.

My country`s free, I`m free and I`m aware that`s a right, but I still believe I should be thankful because at this time, 74 years ago, there were people in Norway whom were dying. Whom were afraid of their own future. Whom were being killed for who they are and whom were sent to horrible places, in order to silent them forever.

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Thanks to all the soldies, whom were away from the people the loved, just to serve their own country and fight for what was right. Thanks to everyone who made an effort to make the world a better place to live in, for their own children and their children`s children. Just: Thank you.

BREATHE

I don`t know where to even begin. The past months haven`t been my best months – August and September went quite well, but when October came I felt emptier. Things weren`t always okay and I guess that kind of explains why I haven`t been blogging as much as I used to. I tried so many times to write something, but usually I`d close the tab or end up writing drafts.

I still don`t know where to begin.

Let`s see.

My grandmother is dead.

I don`t know what else to say about it. Or actually I do, but I don`t know where to begin. She`s just gone and I don`t understand how or why.

I KNOW so damn well that at times like these, I need to remind myself that even though it feels like it`s the end of the world, it`s not the end of the world. It`s NOT the end of the world. It`s hard to tell myself that when I end up thinking negatively. It`s hard during times like these. My grandmother`s gone and it`s crazy weird and sad how I have to get used to not having her in my life, when I`ve known her all my life. She was there when I was born and I was there when she died. I don`t get to sleep neither do I want to sleep these days. Last night I asked myself how I`m going to teach myself that I need to get used to not find her in her house, I need to get used to not have anyone to visit at the hospital and I need to get used to not have a grandmother.

There are other things that suck as well and I really need to convince myself that it`s not the end of the world. Life`s not over, it goes on. Time never stops up for anyone. Thank God my Christmas vacation is long – I need to gather myself, structure my days and be the girl I know I am and can be.

I hope everyone`s okay. Please take care of each other and be kind to one another. See ya`ll soon.

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YOU SAY POTETO, I SAY POTATO

“This isn`t Islam. This terror has nothing to do with Islam. Real Muslims would never even think of doing something like that. Which means that Muslims don`t do such things!”

Alright. Let`s say it had nothing to do with Islam. And I agree – 99 % of the Muslims aren`t responsible for terror attacks.

But I wonder why many Muslims, and then I really mean many Muslims and many Non-Muslims too for that matter, stand up and yell about these things and..that`s it?? Why do they want and expect peace, but don`t want to do much to actually stand up for equality, brotherhood and love? Why do they talk about peace, but don`t do much to build up the peaceful society most of us dream of? Why do the condemn terror, but let a lot of unjustice happen right under their noses?

Great, you`re against terror and condemn every attack. But what about social control, negative culture, this sick honour culture and the oppression especially  Muslim women have to face every day? What happens to your toungue then, what happens to your mind then?

Where are you when women are being married to someone against their will?

Where are you when women are told not to educate themselves and go to school?

Where are you when boys are told to stalk their sisters whenever they go out because it`s all about their reputation and honour?

Where are you when mothers opress their daughters and tell her to remain shameful?

Where are you when human beings aren`t allowed to live freely?

It`s really tiring to see people I know and don`t know talk about peace and love, yet do nothing to do anything about it. “Why is this happening, it needs to stop.” Condemning terror on Twitter or Facebook won`t save the world. Get out there and try to help people. Educate yourself, get more knowledge and don`t leave discussions just because.

If “real Muslims” would never kill anyone, then they would never let their daughters get married to whoever, they would never tell their kids to hate gays and Jews, and they would`ve never allowed opression against women, either. These are things many Muslims do, but they don`t want to talk about it. Instead they believe it`s only about terror and therefore believe condemning it will do, which isn`t the case.

A “real Muslim” might condemn terror, but that`s not where the list ends. Remember that.

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