ARE YOU HAPPY NOW?

Last weekend I got to know Salvador Sobral is admitted at the hospital. Several newspapers have been reporting that he was rushed to intensive care. He awaits an emergency heart transplantion.

All I want to say (or scream) now to the all the people who accused him for “advertising” his bad health condition to win Eurovision Song Contest 2017 is: are you happy now? I want to ask everyone who said he`s mentally sick, he`s a joke and called him bad names: would you say the same to him if you went to visit him at the hospital? Does everyone who said he bribed his place, still believe so?

Some of the things people wrote:

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I felt so bad when I read the news. He posted a video on Youtube, saying he`s saying bye to his career for now and needs to focus on his health. That made me so sad and I hope he gets well very soon. I hope all the haters stop and realise whatever they said about his health condition was wrong. Why would someone, who`s waiting for someone to donate their heart, fake it?

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BE KIND EVERYWHERE AND ANYWHERE

I remember hearing some people talk about a book called “Girl Online” several months ago. I wondered what they were talking about, as I had no idea the Youtuber and blogger Zoe Sugg had just got her debut novel publised. I didn`t even know who she was, but some months ago I started watching some of her videos and learned about the three books she`s written. I finished reading the first one, “Girl Online”, two days and I must say I`m impressed.  If you want to know more about the plot, click HERE. It doesn`t matter whether you like the book or not, or if you consider Penny to be a girl who`s way too desperate or clumsy. Doesn`t matter if you believe Zoe overdid some of the issues in the book, such as anxiety. Doesn`t matter if you believe the book is one big mess or too perfect – talking about online hate and bashing (which Zoe does in her book), is very important.

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I can personally relate, so I thought I`d write down everything my mind`s thinking of when it comes to this. Bullying is not a new issue we as a society are facing – it`s been existing for years and people have been bullied for various reasons. I see how people misuse the word all the time – it`s not bullying if someone called you something mean once or twice. The behaviour is repeted. There`s a difference between being teased and being bullied, after all. Some people should seriously stop making the words loose their meanings. I`ve been bullied for years and I know what it`s like. I also know what it`s like to have people online act like they know your life and everything there is to know about you. As if it`s possible to know a person 100 % through social media or blogs. It`s sad, it`s irritating and it`s frustrating, Especially when people let themselves say nasty things about your family and your life that leave you shocked and crushed. It`s easier to be bullied today, thanks to internet and especially social media. It`s become so easy for people to say whatever they want to, as they can hide behind a screen and let their fingers do the job. It`s easier to say something online than in real life, because you don`t have to face the person or the people you`re talking to.

Reading everything that Penny (the main character in the book) had to go through, made me sad. I can recognise the fear, the sadness and the frustration. Why do strangers online act like they know you? And how can people be so mean? I have to say I don`t have all the answers, because these things don`t make sense to me. I don`t know if some people have that much jealousy or hate inside themselves, or if that`s the way their parents taught them to talk to other humans. All I know is that no matter what, everyone should be nice to everyone. It`s not hard at all. If you can`t say anything nice or positive about or to someone, simply don`t say anything. It`s not fun to be called a whore or to be told you`re the next one into the gas chamber. It`s not fun for anyone to sit behind a screen and read comments about how ugly they are or how pathetic their personality is. To some people it might be all letters, but words can be used as weapons and words do hurt. So be careful what you say. I was about to say there`s a difference between the internet and “real life”, but to be honest: kind behaviour shouldn`t depend on where you are. Be nice to everyone you meet, whether it`s online or offline. Being a bully online doesn`t make you less of a bully offline.

Phew, I think that was it for now… I really know what it feels like to be treated this way, so talking about this is really important for me. ❤ No one deserves to be treated this way and if someone is mean to you, remember to kill them with kindness.

WHEN WILL WE BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY?

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For as long as I can remember, I`ve been told not to interfere in the discussions, conversations and matters grown ups are having. I understand that to some point – when I was little, I was a kid and grown ups are grown ups. Some of their business wasn`t my business. But now as I`m 19, I`m seriously starting to get fed up by sentences such as “young people these days know nothing about life” and “you`re a kid, act like one too”.

I`m turning 20 in about one month – I`m not a kid anymore. Of course there are things grown ups can keep to themselves – that goes for everyone out there. Us who`re young too. But way too many times I`ve been treated like a kid by people I know. Let`s say a person`s being unfair to someone else. I`m not the kind of person to watch other be treated in an unfair and bad way. I just can`t bear it and have to speak up. This has lead to me being called a “rude chatterbox”. In the eyes of many, I talk too much, I interfere too much and I babble too much. Why? Mostly because I`m not afraid to let people know when they`re doing something wrong. I don`t care if a kid or a grown-up is standing in front of me – what`s wrong is wrong. Me standing up for someone is “babble” too now. Isn`t that sad? People should be proud of me, for trying to be a good person. Way too many times I`ve found myself in a position where I`ve had no idea what to do, because some people are never satisfied. If you do something good, it`s nevertheless not anything to clap for. If you do something bad, some start complaining and try to make you feel like you`re the biggest loser on earth.

Why do some grown-ups treat young people this way? Why don`t they allow us to have our own opinions, thoughts and feelings? And why don`t what we think and feel, matter? We matter just as much as they do. Why do some expect us to follow the path they`ve made? And why can`t I stand up for someone, without it being called “interfering” and “wasted time”? Why can`t I be smart too, why isn`t it possible for me to know what I`m talking about? Why am I still being treated like a kid by some grown-ups? And why is it that some grown-ups expect us young people to mind our own business, but if there`s anything going on in our lives, they`ll be there on time to scold us and give us a long speech? I`m 19, for God`s sake. Soon 20. But pointing that out is pointless, because in some people`s eyes I`ll still be a kid when I`m 25.

We`re young and of course we need our parents, we need a community around us that can make us feel safe and sound, that can give us advices. That`s right, we`re young. As time passes by, we try to find ourselves, we try to find our identities and where we want to go in life. Many of us know a lot more about life than some grown-ups ever can imagine. Of course we don`t know everything and many of us teenagers haven`t really claimed so either, but we know a lot and we`re still on our way to somewhere. Some days we struggle a lot – some days are joyful all the way. Also, let`s be honest: We don`t know everything and grown-ups don`t either.

We might be young and they might be older than us, but at the end of the day we`re all humans. And to be honest, I believe that`s where our main focus should be.

ALL THESE EXPECTATIONS

OKAY, so I`ve been thinking about this for a while and I think it`s about time I write this.

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I`m a buddy this week. For those who don`t know what a buddy is, it`s an experienced students, who help new students. I`m a buddy for some of the international students. We have a schedule pretty much every day this week and I LOVE meeting and getting to know new people. It`s even more fun when they`re from different countries and have been living their lives there.

At evenings there are parties and I`m not saying that`s necessarily a bad thing. I`m not a party-person at all – I prefer a “cleaner” party, if that makes any sense? Alcohol-free parties. Therefore I feel like many people expect you to have a drink or two, whenever there`s a party. I don`t know about other countries, but here in Norway it`s so normal to grab a beer or two from the shops and bring them with you to the party and even to the park, if that`s where it`s all happening. Of course I`m going to let other people drink (even though I`m not any fond of alcohol), but why these expectations? I don`t feel pressurized, it`s just these expectations that are annoying. I`ve also encountered that some think of people who prefer to socialize without alcohol, as silly and weird. Or if you say no to a party, you`re a “party-bumper”. You`re not a fun person to hang out with. WHY`S THAT? Why these social norms and rules? I might be wrong and to be honest, I hope I am, but I experienced the same last year. I just wish these norms and expectations didn`t exist, and that it was completely okay to not be a party-person and to not drink alcohol. So many believe that we have to expect questions about why we choose to stay away from alcohol – why isn`t it the opposite?

Thank God there`s not going to be a party tonight – as far as I know, at least. We`re actually going on a Norwegian hike today, which I`m excited about. Norwegian nature is so beautiful and does me so good. I know today`s going to be a better day.

“HITLER WAS RIGHT”

Writing this post is very hard for me, as this is something I`m very “passionate” about. I need to write this. I care very much about people and I know what it`s like to be called things on the internet. Nevertheless I`ve barely been through any of that, compared to the Norwegian blogger Sophie Elise and many other people. At Friday she released a new song called “All your friends” and on Sunday the music video was released. (You can watch it HERE.) You can dislike her music, the language and you can dislike the music video. After all everyone has their own sense of music, but what happened afterwards was way too tragic. People commented a lot of rasistic and dehumanizing comments, and if you believe it`s “no big deal”, then read these comments. These are only some of many hundreds. (Youtube has deactivated the comment section. It got that bad).

“race mixers will be the first in line in the day of the rope”
“f*** your degenerate race mixing propaganda”
“why would you touch a monkey”
“Why are Scandi women so intent on throwing away and destroying their genes? No more blonde hair, no more blue eyes. Just brown skinned, brown haired, brown eyed mixed African children, is this what these women want?”
“You’re a filthy slut, and your jew producer trying to support race mixing, it’s clearly racist, many such cases!”
“Norwegian women are next into the gas chamber. Hitler was right. Himmler was right. Everyone was right. We need to end Western civilisation and start again.”
“Don’t touch the untermensch!”
“you did not like to touch this nigger but you got paid for it so YOU ARE A WHORE and it’s your fucking right to be one but it is also my right to not even piss on you when you’re literally burning …. so girls out there if you only once touch a nigger make sure nobody knows because many good white man think like me actually all good white man! Once you go black you never go back BECAUSE WE DON’T WANT YOU anymore monkey f*****”
“Traitors will hange first on the day of the rope!”

 

Posting them here is hard enough, and I wonder what the people who wrote this and so much more, were thinking. What on earth makes people write something like this? And all this because Sophie Elise is with a guy with darker skin in a music video which is supposed to be about love. It`s crazy – this world is crazy and people are crazy. It`s sad how people even allow themselves to write such disgusting things. It`s sad because history`s repeating itself – we`ve seen where dehumanizing other human beings can lead us, and yet it feels like many of us haven`t learned anything. It`s such a shame and this isn`t what things should be like.

I mean, in the very end we`re all human beings. We feel the same things, we go through many of the same things and it`s very sad that our skin colours get in the way of love. All I can say for now is: Throw some love everywhere you go. We all need love. ♥♥

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CELEBRATE DIVERSITY

Ever since Salvador Sobral and Portugal won the Eurovision Song Contest 2017, so many have been hating on not only his song or his performance, but on him as a person. Let me make something clear: It`s completely okay not to love the winner song, it`s okay to be disappointed, but shaming the winner and hating him simply because he`s taken the trophy with him home, is unacceptable and something we need to adress and talk about. Some were also criticising Ukraine for not showing “diversity”, as the theme for this year`s contest was “celebrate diversity”.a68dfcc65df30f1b9e9e53f7e66a6f4f1

I thought Eurovision was supposed to bring countries, languages and people together – that`s why I love the contest and have been watching it for almost a decade. But this time I must say I`m disappointed. Instead of enjoying the contest and accepting that the winner is Portugal, people want to spread hate and rumors. Yesterday my heart stopped beating for a second when I scrolled through the news and saw that the guy who represented Sweden this year, Robin, had written a post on Instagram about how he disliked Salvador`s speech. “Another one. Are you freaking kidding me?” was my reaction. It ruined my mood so much (hehe, that`s how it goes when you love Eurovision) and I felt so frustrated. Is it hard for people to look around themselves and understand where Salvador`s coming from? Romania`s Alex Florea claims Salvador has “head problems”. Thank God Wiwiblogs clears the misunderstandings. I`m one of those that were (and still kind of are) disappointed about the winner. Not because the singer is a “weirdo” (like some people have stated) or because the song is awful, but it just wasn`t one of my favourites. I was SO nervous about Bulgaria and wanted them to win. In the very end there were two countries left to get the televotes – those two were Portugal and Bulgaria. God, I can`t even explain how nerve-wrecking it was! As most already know, Portugal won and received more televotes and alltogether more points than Bulgaria. I couldn`t understand it there and then. Why Portugal? And why did so many vote for Salvador Sobral? I couldn`t understand what he was singing (because I can`t speak or understand Portugese) and I couldn`t wrap my head around the fact that there had been songs with sort of the same “style” before but they hadn`t won. So why Portugal?

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I started clapping when Salvador was standing on the stage, saying “I want to say that we live in a world of disposable music – fast food music without any content. And I think this could be a victory for music with people that make music that actually means something. Music is not fireworks, music is feeling – so let’s try to change this and bring music back, which is really what matters.” He`s so right, but I didn`t see the hate coming towards him at that time. You know, I understand that everyone won`t agree about everything and I get that many people aren`t quite happy with the way he said it, but I really wish people were more understanding and way more positive. I wish people tried to focus more on the nice things about other people, instead of always looking for even the tiniest flaws and mistakes. Salvador`s one of the most chill and humble Eurovision winners I have ever seen. He`s in NO WAY arrogant. Look up interviews he`s done – he`s in no way looking for fame. He simply wants to be an artist – he wants to create music with feelings. An arrogant person would take ALL the credits and not wait for his sister to come and share the stage with him. I thought that was obvious.

I really recommend those who`re hating on Salvador, to watch this press conference. He`s one of the many artists that are “shattered” by “everyday-pop-singers” that occupy the top lists. He tells how nobody really cared about the album he released last year – why`s that? Why`s that artists like him aren`t played that much on the radio? The reality is that they aren`t – check out the songs that are doing well in your country. I completely agree with Salvador and I believe so many have misunderstood his message – there are so many artists out there, that create music without any feelings in it. That DOESN`T mean he hates every artist in the world and believes he himself is the only one whom understands music. He was criticising the music industry and how there`s so much music out there without any content. Why isn`t that alright for a singer to say? Not every writer knows how to write well. Writing is art, just like music. Not every artist creates music with feelings and I think it`s completely okay to adress that. Those who are hating on him and saying “I`m just stating my opinion, so..”. Well, guess what? Salvador stated his opinions too that day on the stage, but I guess that`s not okay, because according to some people he`s just “a cunt” who`s dying and nobody will remember him anyways.

This comes from someone who listens to pop, country, ballades and bollywood songs – I like quite a lot. I won`t say we don`t need all kind of music and in the press conference Salvador stated that too. We need ALL KIND OF MUSIC – not only “fast food music.” We need all kind of music with feelings.If you take a look at the past winners, you`ll find many of the same things. The winner song has a “faster” rythm/beat, dancers, something happening in the background, lightening or a stageshow. You`ve got Emmelie De Forest from Denmark who won in 2013 and you have Dima Bilan from Russia who won in 2008. And for once, something else won this year. There was diversity and something different went home with the victory this year. It was only about Salvador Sobral and the song. His sister says she believes Portugal won because of the simplicity and the uniqueness in the song. The Eurovision Song Contest`s official site writes “Salvador Sobral is a singer who manages to put across a unique musical sensibility and magnetism on stage.” What Sobral did, was something unique. Again, that doesn`t mean he hated everyone else`s songs, but he`s tired of 1. how there`s not much diversity in Eurovision Song Contest and 2. how we live in a world of disposable music. Who usually occupy the top lists? Radi stations?And who usually wins Eurovision Song Contest? People wanted diversity – this is musical diversity. Music is what Eurovision should be about – not fireworks and what kind of clothes people are wearing. I love how entertaining the contest is, but in the very end I love the songs that make me feel something. That reach my heart and not only my mind.

People who create art, use experiences, things they`ve heard and seen to create whatever they want the world to see. Art should make you feel something – it should get to the deepest corners of your heart. That`s what I believe Salvador tried to do, and even though Portugal wasn`t my favourite and I was and still am a little disappointed, I`m proud of him. Why? He dared to be himself, despite everything. He wasn`t afraid to be different from the other participants – he did his own thing. Can I also just say how I LOVE that he`s not afraid to speak his mind?

Like I`ve already said – it`s okay to not like his song or his performance, but saying mean things about him as a person and what he is and isn`t, is unacceptable and shouldn`t be tolerated by anyone. I`ll write a post about the hate he`s been receiving later, but for now I just want to say it`s sad how so many have made themselves say the craziest things. I don`t understand how the very same people want others to be kind, but can`t be kind themselves. I`m one of those who loved the Bulgarian song more, but I`ve learned better. I`ve learned that trying to be more positive about something is the way, therefore I`ve seen several interviews done by him, I`ve read about him and I`ve looked up the English lyrics of the song. To the haters: Watch this great video by Alexander Rybak, who sings an English version of the Portuguese song to tribute the winner and hopefully you`ll listen to Salvador`s song with a new and open mind. (Alexander won the Eurovision Song Contest in 2011, by the way.)

In the very end I`d like to congratulate Salvador – I`m proud of you and proud of the fact that you have been doing your thing so far and will continue to do so in the future. You`re sincere with yourself and your fans and you`re clearly not afraid to speak your mind.

See you next year in Portugal! 🇵🇹

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8 MAY 1945

Victory was announced in May 1945 – Norway got independent after five years of war and occupation, at this very day, 72 years ago. Imagining the happiness and relief so many people must have felt at this day so many years ago, is surreal and hard. Why? I`m so lucky. My body has never been surrounded by war or hunger. It`s crazy to think of that I would most likely have been sent to one of the consentration camps, because I don`t look “Aryan” in any way. That`s so insane to think of and every day I`m thankful for my life here in Norway and the opportuinities my life here has given me, but at days like these, I`m even more thankful.

We tend to take our independence and freedom for granted, and we forget the long nights soldiers and other brave people had to go through, in order to rescue our country and win the war. We tend to forget the people who brought us here and fought for the freedom many of us take for granted. So today? Today I going to celebrate life a little more, and thank God for giving me a life here in Norway.

My country`s free, I`m free and I`m aware that`s a right, but I still believe I should be thankful because at this time, 74 years ago, there were people in Norway whom were dying. Whom were afraid of their own future. Whom were being killed for who they are and whom were sent to horrible places, in order to silent them forever.

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Thanks to all the soldies, whom were away from the people the loved, just to serve their own country and fight for what was right. Thanks to everyone who made an effort to make the world a better place to live in, for their own children and their children`s children. Just: Thank you.