BE KIND EVERYWHERE AND ANYWHERE

I remember hearing some people talk about a book called “Girl Online” several months ago. I wondered what they were talking about, as I had no idea the Youtuber and blogger Zoe Sugg had just got her debut novel publised. I didn`t even know who she was, but some months ago I started watching some of her videos and learned about the three books she`s written. I finished reading the first one, “Girl Online”, two days and I must say I`m impressed.  If you want to know more about the plot, click HERE. It doesn`t matter whether you like the book or not, or if you consider Penny to be a girl who`s way too desperate or clumsy. Doesn`t matter if you believe Zoe overdid some of the issues in the book, such as anxiety. Doesn`t matter if you believe the book is one big mess or too perfect – talking about online hate and bashing (which Zoe does in her book), is very important.

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I can personally relate, so I thought I`d write down everything my mind`s thinking of when it comes to this. Bullying is not a new issue we as a society are facing – it`s been existing for years and people have been bullied for various reasons. I see how people misuse the word all the time – it`s not bullying if someone called you something mean once or twice. The behaviour is repeted. There`s a difference between being teased and being bullied, after all. Some people should seriously stop making the words loose their meanings. I`ve been bullied for years and I know what it`s like. I also know what it`s like to have people online act like they know your life and everything there is to know about you. As if it`s possible to know a person 100 % through social media or blogs. It`s sad, it`s irritating and it`s frustrating, Especially when people let themselves say nasty things about your family and your life that leave you shocked and crushed. It`s easier to be bullied today, thanks to internet and especially social media. It`s become so easy for people to say whatever they want to, as they can hide behind a screen and let their fingers do the job. It`s easier to say something online than in real life, because you don`t have to face the person or the people you`re talking to.

Reading everything that Penny (the main character in the book) had to go through, made me sad. I can recognise the fear, the sadness and the frustration. Why do strangers online act like they know you? And how can people be so mean? I have to say I don`t have all the answers, because these things don`t make sense to me. I don`t know if some people have that much jealousy or hate inside themselves, or if that`s the way their parents taught them to talk to other humans. All I know is that no matter what, everyone should be nice to everyone. It`s not hard at all. If you can`t say anything nice or positive about or to someone, simply don`t say anything. It`s not fun to be called a whore or to be told you`re the next one into the gas chamber. It`s not fun for anyone to sit behind a screen and read comments about how ugly they are or how pathetic their personality is. To some people it might be all letters, but words can be used as weapons and words do hurt. So be careful what you say. I was about to say there`s a difference between the internet and “real life”, but to be honest: kind behaviour shouldn`t depend on where you are. Be nice to everyone you meet, whether it`s online or offline. Being a bully online doesn`t make you less of a bully offline.

Phew, I think that was it for now… I really know what it feels like to be treated this way, so talking about this is really important for me. ❤ No one deserves to be treated this way and if someone is mean to you, remember to kill them with kindness.

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“HITLER WAS RIGHT”

Writing this post is very hard for me, as this is something I`m very “passionate” about. I need to write this. I care very much about people and I know what it`s like to be called things on the internet. Nevertheless I`ve barely been through any of that, compared to the Norwegian blogger Sophie Elise and many other people. At Friday she released a new song called “All your friends” and on Sunday the music video was released. (You can watch it HERE.) You can dislike her music, the language and you can dislike the music video. After all everyone has their own sense of music, but what happened afterwards was way too tragic. People commented a lot of rasistic and dehumanizing comments, and if you believe it`s “no big deal”, then read these comments. These are only some of many hundreds. (Youtube has deactivated the comment section. It got that bad).

“race mixers will be the first in line in the day of the rope”
“f*** your degenerate race mixing propaganda”
“why would you touch a monkey”
“Why are Scandi women so intent on throwing away and destroying their genes? No more blonde hair, no more blue eyes. Just brown skinned, brown haired, brown eyed mixed African children, is this what these women want?”
“You’re a filthy slut, and your jew producer trying to support race mixing, it’s clearly racist, many such cases!”
“Norwegian women are next into the gas chamber. Hitler was right. Himmler was right. Everyone was right. We need to end Western civilisation and start again.”
“Don’t touch the untermensch!”
“you did not like to touch this nigger but you got paid for it so YOU ARE A WHORE and it’s your fucking right to be one but it is also my right to not even piss on you when you’re literally burning …. so girls out there if you only once touch a nigger make sure nobody knows because many good white man think like me actually all good white man! Once you go black you never go back BECAUSE WE DON’T WANT YOU anymore monkey f*****”
“Traitors will hange first on the day of the rope!”

 

Posting them here is hard enough, and I wonder what the people who wrote this and so much more, were thinking. What on earth makes people write something like this? And all this because Sophie Elise is with a guy with darker skin in a music video which is supposed to be about love. It`s crazy – this world is crazy and people are crazy. It`s sad how people even allow themselves to write such disgusting things. It`s sad because history`s repeating itself – we`ve seen where dehumanizing other human beings can lead us, and yet it feels like many of us haven`t learned anything. It`s such a shame and this isn`t what things should be like.

I mean, in the very end we`re all human beings. We feel the same things, we go through many of the same things and it`s very sad that our skin colours get in the way of love. All I can say for now is: Throw some love everywhere you go. We all need love. ♥♥

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NOT TO BE MEAN, BUT…

About a month ago Salvador Sobral and Portugal won Eurovision Song Contest 2017. After the grand final, many people had opinions about his song, his music, his performance and him. You know mean people on the internet who just have to be rude and let everyone know what they think? Many of their comments begin with “not to be mean, but…” or “not hating, but…”. I`ve met so many internet trolls in my life. Many of them are grown-ups that troll around, believe they`re being nice and accuse everyone else for being mean. Anywho, I got so fed up by reading their comments after the final, that I`ve decided to publish some of them here and reply to them the way I want to. The comments are from Salvador Sobral`s and Eurovision`s official Instagram accounts. 


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My answer: How nice isn`t it, to call someone a weirdo? 🙂

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My answer: How kind of you to not want him to be “sick or something” and comment something so nice. And when did wanting your sister to share the stage with you, become arrogant? The news about him needing a new heart was not true, but that doesn`t mean he wasn`t sick. There`s a reason his sister did the rehearsals.

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My answer: (Not so) sorry to say this, but if Eurovision Song Contest was a hospital, don`t you think people who have cancer, cardiovascular, Ebola, AIDS, etc. would`ve joined the contest instead?0,4

Dude, do you English speak? Maybe you should go and learn some English first.

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My answer: Isn`t people`s health condition something private and something`s that up to people to share? Just in case you didn`t know, Salvador answered questions about his health, but else he didn`t talk about it. I bet you`re this rude, only because your favourite didn`t win. Maybe you should go and listen to Katy Perry, instead of spending your time, writing stupid comments online. 🙂

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My answer: If Portugal was to bribe, don`t you think it wouldn`t have taken then 49 times to finally win?

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My answer: I bet many of the viewers didn`t even know about his health conditions – I was one of them. 😉 It wasn`t like he said “Oh, I`m so sick, please vote for me before I die”. He already had his surgery and was happy about being able to share his music.

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My answer: Yeah, it`s veryyyyy nice to say “not to be mean or anything, but he looks pretty weird and it looks like he has an ilness”. Enough said.

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My answer: When did he say all the other songs are garbage? Why would he sing Belgium`s song, if he only considered it “garbage”? And why is it stupid to want your sister, who wrote the song for you, to share the stage with you? It only shows how humble he is. Learn from him. 😉

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My answer: Some people. You guys must have had a very bad day. 🙂

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My answer: Is telling people that your sister wrote the song and a little about your health condition “advertising”? Isn`t it amazing to appreciate the work someone has done, unlike you? Not everyone is as humble as him. 🙂

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My answer: Okay, so he`s not “a regular guy” because he, according to you, was weird? Wasn`t Jamala a “regular woman”? What about Alexander Rybak? Dima Bilan? Can`t we just appreciate all kind of music? If it was all about politics, then I bet Portugal would`ve won several years ago. 😉 0,20

My answer: Maybe you should be jealous of the fact that he most likely wouldn`t act the same was as you did. 🙂 How kind to hate someone you haven`t even met, by the way.

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My answer: Hahahaha, better to be asleep than to act like an troll online.

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My answer: Does one become a less of an idiot by being mean online? That`s new to me, thanks to you I learned something new today! Crazy how a person who`s had a surgery, can`t participate in a music contest without being called all kind of things.

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My answer: Most of the people who voted for him, didn`t even know about his illness. Dying or not – he won and there`s nothing you can do about it.

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My answer: Is he arrogant because he cares about refugees and wants to give some credits to his very own sister? If people like him are arrogant, I`d rather be arrogant than someone who. 🙂

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In the very end, I`d like all the internet trolls to read this. It`s nicely written, unlike many of the other comments. You don`t have to like Salvador or his song, but at least be nice towards him and everyone else.