MONDAY

Today`s been a great day – I believe it`s because I went to this library to do some studying today, before the lecture, because of the sun and how the weather was nice today. We`re in the middle of October and Norway`s weather isn`t the most stable one, so it was quite nice to leave the house with a milkshake and my sunglasses. The sun mixes very well with the autumn colours, as well. I really like autumn, especially when it`s  not too cold.

IMG_1491IMG_1513Also, I could live in a library. Each time I visit one, I wish I stayed there on my own. Some libraries here are available from 7 AM to 11 PM, if you upgrade your library card. I find that opportunity were handy, especially where I live. The library, which it takes about 10 minutes to get to by the train, is pretty much empty on Sundays and is therefore good to use then, if you`re me, haha. Speaking of libraries – I`m going to do a little book haul here, where I`ll show you my previous and current readings, along with some other books. Hope anyone of you is up for that! 🙂 IMG_1569

I hope you`re having a great day, wherever you are. Now I need to do a short assignment, have a lovely day. 

PS: When you publish a post without a title, you realise how not-so-focused your mind is, haha. Better late than never, though.

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TAKE CARE OF YOUR MENTAL HEALTH

Today`s World Mental Health Day, so I thought I`d share some advices which should be helpful when life gets tough and your head gets too much. I know very well that sometimes, your own mind can be “overwhelming”. It`s not always easy to “control” your own head and neither can you control life, but it`s possible, especially if you learn how to deal with your own emotions and obstacles coming your way, in a positive and prosperous way.


💘 Talk about what you`re facing, about the difficult thoughts and feelings you`re dealing with, with someone you trust. It could be a friend, someone in your family or your doctor. For some people it`s easier to rely on a stranger, who know nothing about you and might not judge you. In most cases you necessarily don`t have to meet that person ever again.

💘 Plan positive activites and accomplish them. Do something nice every day, it doesn`t have to be anything huge. Go out for a walk, read the book you`ve been so excited about,  bake a cake or some lovely croissants, have a coffee with a friend, paint or write something, visit a library, have a pamper evening – be creative!

💘 Divide the problems into smaller bits, if they start getting too heavy to carry. Focus on one thing at a time and try to find a way to deal with them.

💘 Think of everything you`re good at and everything you can do, instead of everything you`re not good at or everything you`re not able to accomplish. Be positive!

💘You`re most likely the only person in the park who`s thinking of how your hair looks like or how your jacket`s not matching your shoes. WHO CARES? Other people barely notice these things and what so if they find you weird? You can`t please everyone. No, but really – other people don`t really care if your hair`s not exactly on point (I bet it is, it`s just your mind). Most people don`t even notice the flaws and mistakes we notice when it comes to ourselves. Go out with your head high and be proud of who you are. Don`t overthink. We tend to criticize and judge ourselves too much. I remember reading about this girl once, who thought her nose was too big. It was only after pointing that out to her friends, that they realised her nose was “big”, but even then they told her she looks completely fine. Whenever you start criticizing or judging yourself, ask yourself: would I say the same to someone else? To my best friend? To my mum, or my brother?

💘 Always remember you`re never alone, the lady sitting next to you on the bus is most likely facing some obstacles too. Someone before you has been through pretty much the same as you, and they did okay.

💘 Healthy eating habits, enough sleep and physical activity are important elements, when it comes to mental health.

💘Be your own best friend. Treat yourself the way you`d treat a friend.

💘 Everything will be alright.

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What do you do, to take care of yourself and your own mind? Do you believe having a day like this, is important?

THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT AUTUMN NIGHTS

There`s something about autumn nights. The orange lights. The cold, fresh air. There`s something different about the atmosphere, maybe I like it more because people aren`t so busy when the city is surrounded by darkness. They`re not everywhere. Less people on the train, less people inside the bus. Less people in the shops. 

It`s as if I can keep the city more for myself. I wish I could keep it for myself.

I like the nights. I wish I could spend more time in the cities, during nights. I want to enjoy late night walks with someone I love. I want to see the city nights. 

On Friday I went to Bjørndal. Bjørndal? It`s where I grew up. It`s where I met the first people I considered my friends. Bjørndal is where I`ve spent most of my time on this earth. I can imagine little me, jumping on the trampoline in the garden. I remember the little plastic house we had, which suddenly blew away one day. I remember the day I was scared, I remember the days I came home furious because the bullies had made fun of me once again. I remember the day when I and my brother woke up about fifteen minutes before school started and we managed to reach school on time. Pretty much everything started there. Bjørndal. The place is so quiet, it looks so good in the sun. I moved away about 5 years ago, and yet? Yet not much has changed, but people have. 

The clock was ten, when I was on my way home. For some seconds, I felt so calm. Late evening, city nights and not that many people were walking around. 

But weren`t people in Las Vegas, enjoying another city night? There I was, in Oslo, not scared at all. While people in Las Vegas? Many went out to enjoy a concert, to celebrate music, and some never came back.

The contrasts in the world scare me. 

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The past days have been okay, but not so okay at the same time. Did anyone hear about Sonny Melton? That man wasn`t selfish at all, when he gave up his own life, to rescue his wife, Heather. Between all the mess, the blood and the bullets, there was love. What a good man Sonny was. He was trying to shield his wife. I feel like way too few people would do that, I feel like we`ve lost the meaning of pure and true love in this mad world, but that?

That is pure love that I hope I`ll find one day, along with some great autumn nights. 

As I`ve been writing this, I`ve realised more and more that this post might not make that much of sense. Let`s just say I this season, especially at night. 

LIFE AND BOOKS

Yesterday wasn`t the best day, especially the afternoon wasn`t as good as I had hoped for. Sometimes the “reality” hits me and let`s just say I get a little too scared. It doesn`t take much for me to sometimes think I`m going to die, haha… My mind gets carried away easily those times, which is very annoying for me, but I guess it is what it is.

Coming home usually does me good, which was the case yesterday too. I`m not really enjoying my time at school these days, as in I can`t wait to get home, wear a comfy hoodie and do what I want to do. Also, recently I`ve been reading quite great books! I finished the first two books of Zoe Sugg`s series, and while I`m waiting for the third one to arrive at the library, I`ve been reading Souad`s “burned alive” and right now I`m reading a Norwegian book called “I morgen vi ler.” I`m going to try and finish it tonight, there are so many great books waiting for me and I can`t wait to read them.

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But before that, I need to clean up a little. Meanwhile, do you guys have any book recommendations? I like everything but action, horror and thriller!

IT IS NICE TO BE NICE

On Wednesday I went to an event about mental heath and eating disorders. Ingeborg Senneset was the speaker, and I was excited. I`ve been following Ingeborg`s journey as a participant in the public debate, as a journalist and as a writer. She`s such an amazing and inspiring woman – she thought she was going to die some years ago, and look where she`s now? Damn, her “story” is so inspirational and it`s wonderful to see how far she`s come.

A lot of what she said, means a lot to me. One thing she talked about, was how we should see human beings for what they are – human beings. We need to ask the difficult questions, we need to pay attention to the kids who`re a little too fussy or noisy, instead of telling them to be quiet. We need to ask them why they`re behaving that way.

This reminds me of something I encountered several years ago. I was in 7th grade, had just finished cleaning up the classroom and was on my way out. After the break it was time for sports. I wasn`t able to find my gym bag, so I looked for it everywhere. In the classroom, in the toilet. I couldn`t find it. I went to the hall and told the teacher about this, whereas she told me to go and look for it once more. I went to the Music room, I went to the library, but I didn`t find it. I went back to the gym hall, watched the other kids running around. After the lessons, I let the girls know that I thought they knew where my bag is. Of course they denied it, and the teacher looked at me and told me to calm down. We were in the wardrobe. Why was it always me? She didn`t understand why I was reacting that way – hadn`t these people bullied me for a long time? It was as if those girls could never do such of a thing, it was as if being bullied for a long time was nothing.

Instead of trying to understand me, she told me to calm down and not accuse them. Instead of trying to get closer to me, she told me all the things she should`ve told the other students. Instead of experiencing that others might try to understand you and approach you in one way or another, one meets everything else and this way too often makes the situation worse. It`s important to ask both kids and grown-ups how they`re doing, why they`re doing what they`re doing. Don`t judge others. Try to be the person people can rely on, dare to be yourself and be kind. Always.

Because if there`s one thing I know, it`s that you might not know it there and then, but words can save lives. They can save us, and leave deep scars. So be careful about what you say and what you leave.

THURSDAY

 

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Thursday, which means I usually have to get up 6 o clock. Today morning my mum woke me up 20 minutes before I had to leave the house, haha. I can`t seem to get in bed by time, but when I`m in bed and actually sleeping, I love sleeping. Am I the only one like that?

IMG_1335.jpgFetsund, which is where I live, is quite beautiful. Especially if you live close to the water. 🙂

Today`s been a great day. My aunt and my grandfather came back from “Hajj” today, so I went to the airport to meet them. Now I`m going to watch a drama serial, clean up my room and then I better be bed. It`s about time I change my routines.

LIFE RIGHT NOW

I`m a little mad at myself right now, as I forgot to hand in a book I borrowed at the library and therefore have to pay a fine. Well done to me. I never seem to learn. I seriously need to borrow less and actually read every book I take with me home from the library. I`m currently trying to find a way to not have to pay the amount…

I`m doing a course called “economic anthropology” and let me be honest: it`s boring. Even politics are more interesting. I wish I could exchange the course with something else, but unfortunately it`s a course I have to do, as it`s obligatory. So far I`ve been enjoying the other courses I`m doing. 🙂

Some days ago I forgot my travel card at home without even knowing. I realised that the next day and was so relieved about not coming home poorer, haha. If they had caught me without a travel card, I would`ve got a fine on 1100 NOK. I`m also so glad I didn`t know I forgot it at home, or else my heart would`ve kept sinking on the train.

The parliamentary election here in Norway was last night and oh, my. I feel like most people were excited about the result.  I don`t think I should start talking about the political situation here, because to be honest – it`s been way too much these past weeks. For now I`ll only say this: a siviliced debate shouldn`t consist of hate and personal attacks. Many people need to learn how to talk nicely to other human beings.

The scabies have given me more peace the past week, but I don`t understand why they just can`t leave me alone? Don`t tell me I have to do another cure.

I`m still missing the international students, haha. I don`t know when I`ll finally get over them. Despite this, I`m thinking of being a buddy next year too.

♥ Yesterday I started thinking I should`ve joined a private school instead. Less people in an auditorium and more attention from the teacher is the thing. I miss Østmarka and how we only were 14 students in my class. Can`t believe that`s so long ago.

I`ve been posting poems recently, as poems describe best how I feel and then especially these days. Hopefully I`ll post something about it tonight.. Image result for quotes about poetry